Yesterday we went house hunting with my parents. After over 35 years in the same home, they are looking to downsize and to be a little closer to family and their business. We looked at a few homes that met the criteria, but neither were "the one." After a picnic lunch, we decided, on a whim, to go to an open home which didn't exactly meet their criteria. We piled into the car and drove 25 minutes "out of town" to a semi rural property. 14 acres of fruit trees, gardens, a dam, undulating grassed area and two lovely homes (plus a barn and large shed!) We were in paradise.
For the last few years, my husband and I have talked about our desire to live on an acreage. To have space, to be more connected to nature. We have also at times, talked about buying a property with two homes and sharing the cost with my parents. This is a somewhat practical decision as it makes the property more affordable, yet as we walked around the grounds yesterday, I realised that it is really so much more than that.
In recent times I have given a lot of thought to the concept of "the village." You know the proverb "It takes a village to raise a child"? Well I have often thought about this from the adult perspective - how beneficial, as a parent, it can be to have a village of people to call on when times are tough, or to keep you sane after a really long day with a toddler! But as we walked around this property yesterday, it became clear just how important "the village" is for children too.
As I watched my children looking at the fruit trees and gardens with their grandparents, I realised that this was the sort of thing the traditional notion of a village was good for. The children could go off with Pop to tend to the gardens or help Nan feed the chooks or chop some firewood with Dad. Yes... my mind may have got a tad carried away. I was visualising our family living in this place and my children reaping the rewards of our own (albeit small) village.
I feel like as a generation of parents, we seem more stressed than those before us (or perhaps we are just more vocal about our stress?) and I wonder if this is in part due to the lack of a village. Our children (well not mine because I am a "bored is good" type of parent!) are more scheduled than ever. We put them in dance classes and cooking classes and art school and sport and I wonder if perhaps we were to embrace the village a little more, if those things would seem redundant. Would they instead go and learn to cook with the next door neighbour who wins prizes for her baking skills? Would they play football in a large group of neighbourhood children? Would they wander across the street and help in the community garden?
We need to bring back the concept of "the village" - if not for ourselves, for our children. With a wider circle of people with different ways of being, doing and knowing, just imagine the opportunities for children!
Now I'll go back to daydreaming about my idyllic acreage, but I will also be thinking about how we create this sense of village right where we are...
By Nicole Halton
Providing inspirational professional development opportunities for Early Childhood Educators